I am an entrepreneur and I have the most amazing wife in the world. The support I get from her is incredible. If you’re an entrepreneur and you’re working on a startup, you WILL need moral support (at a minimum) from your spouse – without it, well, I can’t even imagine how that would work.
An incredibly supportive spouse
The reason I’m writing this post is because I’m in awe of what my wife did to support my entrepreneurial efforts. People who follow my posts know my wife and I were expecting twins in March, and that I got my startup, WeMontage, into the gener8tor startup accelerator in Madison, WI.
What people don’t know is the twins, who were due the end of March, had to be unexpectedly delivered – because of complications – on January 2, 2013 at 29 weeks (full term is 40 weeks). The babies were very premature and extremely tiny and fragile. My son weighed 1lb 14 ozs.
If that wasn’t hard enough, I was to leave for Madison, WI to begin the startup accelerator for a weekend kick off the next day. I’d worked my ass off to get into the accelerator and the likelihood was that the program was exactly what I needed to “accelerate” the business, and without it I would have struggled to get traction.
However, I didn’t think I should go. I didn’t want to leave my wife, and my beautiful, fragile little babies in the NICU at the hospital. I told this to my wife and she was having none of it. She told me to get my butt down to Madison and rock out the accelerator because she and the babies need WeMontage to be a success.
I was speechless. Writing it now, I still can’t believe she told me that. How many wives would have made the same choice? Not many, I suspect. But I am incredibly thankful for my wife.
A good resource
In this great post on Mark Suster’s blog, which was actually written as an advice column by Mark’s wife, 12 tips are laid out to make a relationship work when your partner/spouse is an entrepreneur. I was so moved by the post, I immediately emailed it to my wife and we will use it as a guide for our relationship.
Here are just a few of the points from the post:
- Respect and develop a positive working relationship with your spouse’s co-workers
- Don’t email your spouse unless you have to
- Respect his/her need for down time
- Take vacations!
- Take some weekends without the kids each year
These are just a few, but I encourage you to read the post and discuss it with your spouse.
If you’re an entrepreneur, make sure you have your spouse’s support. It will make all the difference in the world.
Please leave a comment and tell me about what happened to your startup because of a supportive /unsupportive spouse or partner.
P.s., the babies are doing really well and my daughter will come home this week (week of Feb 18th) and my son is not too far behind her.